Sunday, April 18, 2010

God chooses Mom for Disabled Child

I could not, not share this wonderful written piece written by Erma Bombeck Published in the Today Newspaper Sept. 4th, 1993
Here is the link but I have it written below. This is to all the parents out there, trust me it will make you feel special as it did me, I cried. All credit goes to Erma Bombeck, I am just sharing it for I know it will have an impact on you.

Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures, and a couple by habit. This year, nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children.

Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen? Somehow I visualize God hovering over Earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, he instructs his angels to make notes in a giant ledger.

"Armstrong, Beth; son; patron saint, Matthew.

"Forrest, Marjorie; daughter; patron saint, Cecelia.

"Rudledge, Carrie; twins; patron saint.... give her Gerard. He's used to profanity.

" Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her a handicapped child."

The angel is curious. "Why this one, God? She's so happy."

"Exactly," smiles God. "Could I give a handicapped child a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel."

"But has she patience?" asks the angel.

"I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she'll handle it."

"I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and independence. She'll have to teach the child to live in her world and that's not going to be easy."

"But, Lord, I don't think she even believes in you."

God smiles. "No matter. I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness." The angel gasps, "Selfishness? Is that a virtue?"

God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she'll never survive. Yes, there is a woman I will bless with a child less then perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a spoken word. She will never consider a step ordinary. When her child says "Momma" for the first time, she will be present at a miracle and know it! When she describes a tree or a sunset to her blind child, she will see it as few people ever see my creations." "I will permit her to see clearly the things I see---ignorance, cruelty, prejudice--- and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side."

"And what about her patron saint?" asks the angel, his pen poised in midair.

God smiles. "A mirror will suffice."


  1. Hi
    I found your blog by accident or maybe divine intervention. I have a little boy of 4 who is as yet undiagnosed but who we think is autistic. At the moment all the doctors will say is that he has a Global Developmental Delay. He has a severe speech and communication delay but is a loving, happy child. Yes, he has problems and lately these have left me feeling helpless and very let down, punished almost. This post of yours made me cry, although I'm not entirely sure why. Perhaps because I feel so guilty for wishing things were different, perhaps because I have this gorgeous child that I should love unconditionally and not expect so much of. It has given me a lot to think about. Maybe I can eventually find peace in the fact while he is different to other kids, not like them and probably never will be, that he was chosen for me because someone somewhere knew I could handle it. I just have to believe that myself!

    Thank you

  2. You should see the tears coming down my face after reading this. I have asked God this question myself more times than I care to admit. After all, he blessed with 3 children with Autism and developmental disabilities. My daughter is not only non verbal and delayed from Autism, but she has physical disabilities as well. my oldest son has severe/profound Autism, and my youngest son has PDD. When the last got diagnosed it was a pretty hard pill to swallow, as we were hoping for at least one child that could give us grand kids. But I know that it is what it is, and God gave us to them to bless our lives and teach us to appreciate the little things in life, which we do immensely. We feel that God gives us People with disabilities so that we can grow and thrive by caring for them. They are the biggest blessings A person could ever receive, and we think that God must have thought pretty highly of us to give us these amazing kids. ---------------------Jamie k Proud mom to Donovan 10, Gracie 5 and Alex 3

  3. I Searched "why did GOD send me a disabled child" and bumped into this blog.. I have a severely disabled child who has severe mental and physical limitations... and this is by far the best thing I have ever read or that has ever made me feel good or that I have some kind of reason to be here.. My daughter does not have autism.. she has epilepsy but this blog and the comments just brought me more strength.. I wake up some days and I am lost and want to yell and be mad a GOD and some days I am feeling blessed... but I printed this out so on my bad days I can just open it up and read it over and over and I remind myself why


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